‘Wondering why we’re so anxious’: How anxiety has made me a better business owner
I had just spent about an hour with my wife, Kate, when she told me she was feeling anxious and asked if I could try to calm down.
Kate had been a full-time employee at her company for about four years.
She worked in HR, and she was the only female in the team.
We discussed the work environment, which was incredibly different from what she had worked in in her previous career.
Kate said that her managers were all male, that they were often loud and sometimes disrespectful, and that they sometimes would yell at the team members, and would often yell at each other too.
Kate described how she felt she had been treated unfairly because of her gender, and I agreed.
I thought to myself that maybe, just maybe, I could be a little bit more assertive, a little more aggressive, a bit more sensitive.
So I went out and bought a pen and paper, wrote down some simple phrases, and then sat down at my desk.
I wrote down how I felt.
I think it was the first time I’d ever written down something in a book.
I asked Kate if I was going to do it.
She laughed, and said, “Don’t worry, we’ll make it happen.”
I sat down next to her, and we started talking.
I told her how I really wanted to be a great manager, and how I loved her work.
I wanted to hire the best people, and the best ideas, and have them do the best work.
But I had a lot of anxiety about it, because it wasn’t working.
Kate, a self-described “super-engaged” business owner, told me that she had experienced this anxiety firsthand as a child.
She had had several nervous breakdowns during high school, but she always recovered.
“But I have this anxiety every time I get up in the morning, and it never goes away,” Kate said.
“That’s why I want to do this.”
Kate had always been confident and confident in herself, and had always taken the path of least resistance, which is to try to be as “open” as possible, but that’s exactly what she found out was wrong with her.
In her book, Kate describes a story she heard a friend tell about a man who had been sexually assaulted by another man, and what happened next: She was so angry, she stormed out of the room and chased after him for hours.
When he came back out, he had completely stripped off and was standing on his feet, and his arms were full of bruises.
She ran out of her house, screaming at her boyfriend to call the police.
The next day, she called the police again.
The police called the doctor and the therapist, and they told her that it was time to stop trying to control her emotions.
And she started talking about her own mental health issues.
Kate told me how she was constantly anxious, which made it hard for her to work.
She would worry about not being good enough to the person she was supposed to be working with, or she would be frustrated and feel that she was not being treated fairly.
I said to Kate, “I think it’s really important for people to have this understanding of what is going on, because you can never really control it.”
So she went on a monthlong meditation retreat, and was able to take on a new perspective.
And that was enough to bring her down.
She said that when she came back to work, she felt like she was doing something great.
She felt more confident in the workplace, and her colleagues were more supportive.
She also found that the anxiety she was experiencing in her daily life was not the only thing that was affecting her work performance.
“It’s like if you’ve been to a movie, and you feel that you can’t do anything right, and are feeling like you don’t belong there, and can’t relate to anybody,” she said.
That was the thing that really surprised me, because I had always assumed that when I was anxious, I was being defensive.
I was always thinking, “Oh, I’ve never done anything wrong.
I’m doing great!”
When I came to work that day, I felt really confident, and Kate was smiling and joking around.
I realized that it wasn.
Kate and I sat for two hours and then went to lunch.
We had dinner with friends, and while Kate was still nervous, I started to feel a little less anxious.
But she was still so anxious that she needed to go back to her office and talk to her managers about the new environment.
“So I asked my manager, ‘Have you been a little nervous since you came in?'”
“Yes,” she replied.
“And what did she say?”
“She said that she thought she could manage it.”
I had never been to Kate’s office before.
I knew the building, but I didn’t know her personally.
And I thought,